An icon and hero to many, Sir Elton John celebrated his sixth wedding anniversary with David Furnish on Monday, December 21, 2020. The couple celebrated the 15-year milestone of their civil marriage on the same day.
John and Furnish provided extensive information on their involvement in Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue’s New York Times bestseller “What Makes a Marriage Last”.
The couple met at a last minute dinner party that John hosted, to which he invited a handful of friends and their guests.
“The last thing that crossed my mind was looking for someone to love,” shared John. “I just wanted to meet some new people.”
“I thought I was going to go into this rock star’s house and meet a big ego,” said Furnish. “He didn’t want to talk about himself at all. He wanted to learn about our lives, our careers, our families, our interests, and our friends. “
John remembered meeting Furnish for the first time. “He was so intelligent. It was like, ‘Oh my god, an independent person!’ “
The book also described John and Furnish’s love celebration every Saturday of the year, when they paid tribute to their fateful dinner party with handwritten love letters many years earlier. “That’s 52 love letters a year and since they started 26 years ago – 52 times 26 are 1,352 love letters,” says the book.
“Previously [the civil ceremony] We’d always said, “We don’t need a piece of paper to confirm who we are,” but I think we were a little naive, “recalled Furnish.” It has to do with society validating your relationship . “
John agreed, “Civil partnership moved, but marriage moved more. I think that’s because we had the kids [Zachary and Elijah] There.”
Your children “brought us closer together,” said Furnish. “We were independent adults for so long that taking responsibility for raising a child meant we were both on the same learning curve at the same time.”
Both David and Furnish had a history of substance abuse, although Johns was much more advanced when they met. John remembered being sober for 23 years when Furnish began his own sobriety journey.
“I just felt like I wanted clarity, especially with the kids. I thought I wasn’t who I used to be and I wanted to hit the reset button, ”recalled Furnish.
“I never had a doubt that this was an honest, kind, kind, handsome man. And I’ve never had anyone like this in my life, ”said John. “Even when he drank, we still had an open, honest relationship and he got away with everything he said.”
“We’re both in AA now – we go to meetings together, which is nice,” added Furnish.
John’s advice to young couples is straightforward.
“Learn about yourself before you give yourself up,” said John. “Your own identity and self-esteem are the greatest things you can bring into a relationship. If you don’t learn to love yourself, you can get into a relationship with the wrong person. “
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